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How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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All of your emotions are valid. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this challenging and trying time in your life.
I truly hope this forum will be a comfort to you. I found much comfort when I reached out to this forum. Just to have my feelings validated helped me so much.
AgingCare forum is here to offer support and comfort. Please continue to lean on us.
We all have needed someone to prop us up from time to time. We will help as much as possible.
Take care, wishing you all the best and hope that you can find some sort of relief soon.
I'm dealing with a prazlyed spouse that really hates me but i'm the only person that's taking care of him.I have deal with his complaints about everything,he is mentally abusing me i need help things got so bad this weeked i had to get me a room, i called him he hung up, now what can i do if hes refusing my care
By taking care of yourself too. That part is often overlooked when we are in the throngs of caregiving for our loved one, but it's one of the most important things we can do. Otherwise we can become frustrated, and angry.
Caregiving is extremely hard, and can definitely take its toll on us if we let it, so we have to be very intentional with what we do for ourselves. Even if it's just little things, like going for a walk, going grocery shopping, going out to eat with a friend(yes, you can still do these things during Covid)or reading a good book. And if you can afford it, hire someone to come stay with your wife while you get away for a few days to your favorite place. You will be amazed how doing just some of these simple things can change your perspective and rejuvenate your soul.
And if that doesn't help, then it might be time to find the nicest place you can afford to put your wife in, where others will care for her and you can get back to just being her husband. There are no easy answers. Only you can decide what is best for you and your wife. But please, in the mean time, take care of yourself, and do something just for you. God bless you.
Yes, long time caregiving can bring out the worst in us. What is your anger? Is it at the disease (you don't say why you're caring for her)? Is it at your wife? Is it at the life you sacrificed in caring all these years? Is it at being unappreciated? Is it at God? Is your frustration at not being able to do more? Maybe it's all of these. Does your wife's disease have a support group- cancer, dementia, MS? If so, find one and hook up with it. Your local Area Agency on Aging can maybe help you find one. Have you considered outside help? Home care agencies, church groups, respite care can all help provide some relief from caregiving. If this is your current state of mind you must find support and help. Over extending your care can eventually become resentment and the disregard for your wife's proper care. So make some calls- AAA, pastor, county agencies, etc., and make one for your own counseling.
By knowing that I’m not alone and my feelings are valid and normal. And that I have the right to get help and break away without guilt. I have found good support here in this forum so I hope you keep reading and posting!
I'm glad that one thing you did was look up AgingCare :)
Because step one is to acknowledge how hard caregiving is and find like minds to share your burden with.
I see from your profile that you're caring for your wife - would you like to say any more about what you're having to deal with? Many people have said they experience huge relief simply from finding that they're not alone, and I'm sure that your situation - although unique to you - will chime with a good many others here.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It is a very stressful situation to be in.
All of your emotions are valid. I am so sorry that you are dealing with this challenging and trying time in your life.
I truly hope this forum will be a comfort to you. I found much comfort when I reached out to this forum. Just to have my feelings validated helped me so much.
AgingCare forum is here to offer support and comfort. Please continue to lean on us.
We all have needed someone to prop us up from time to time. We will help as much as possible.
Take care, wishing you all the best and hope that you can find some sort of relief soon.
Caregiving is extremely hard, and can definitely take its toll on us if we let it, so we have to be very intentional with what we do for ourselves. Even if it's just little things, like going for a walk, going grocery shopping, going out to eat with a friend(yes, you can still do these things during Covid)or reading a good book. And if you can afford it, hire someone to come stay with your wife while you get away for a few days to your favorite place. You will be amazed how doing just some of these simple things can change your perspective and rejuvenate your soul.
And if that doesn't help, then it might be time to find the nicest place you can afford to put your wife in, where others will care for her and you can get back to just being her husband. There are no easy answers. Only you can decide what is best for you and your wife. But please, in the mean time, take care of yourself, and do something just for you. God bless you.
Because step one is to acknowledge how hard caregiving is and find like minds to share your burden with.
I see from your profile that you're caring for your wife - would you like to say any more about what you're having to deal with? Many people have said they experience huge relief simply from finding that they're not alone, and I'm sure that your situation - although unique to you - will chime with a good many others here.