My grandmother is 83 and lives alone in NY state. She is not safe at home and is not allowing anyone to help her. Her neighbor/ friend, Maureen, is her health proxy. Maureen and I agree that something needs to change, fast. Tomorrow we are calling her doctor (who is worried and displeased with her lack of self-care) and her APS social worker (who is frustrated and recognizes her as severely self-neglecting). Maureen would like to proceed with having Grandma declared incompetent. She wants to compel her to agree to having a home aide, and if that isn't going to work, have her admitted to a nursing home.
Advice?
Previous post, here: https://www.agingcare.com/questions/grandma-is-in-terrible-condition-and-refuses-to-allow-anyone-to-help-cant-aps-do-more-459712.htm?orderby=recent&page=1
This is maybe the third or 4th post about this.