She is 92 yrs. old has a sense of entitement to treating herself on what the items are that she buys whether its online or home shopping club. She searches for sale items on the sunday paper and has to buy the deal.She is also a hoarder and has a cat that she cannot care for but insists in the company. She also has a friend who lives with her who doesn't want to help her and is no help. Her neighbor mooshes on her because she is a loving caring person and she allows the neighbor to abuse her friendship.By borrowing money and food. She also has a problem of losing her relationship with granddaughter and great granddaughter. The reason is that my husband is her son and the granddaughter is his daughter who refuses to talk to him and is about one year of not talking to him and grandma won't help him cause grandma is aging and doesn't see how bad things are in the relationship...
Do try to get her to a doctor for a checkup (you don't have to mention these reasons - think of something simple like blood pressure. You can alert the doctor ahead of time).
A doctor may be able to help you find other living arrangements for her.
If none of this works, you can try Social Services and see if they will do a welfare check. In the end, you may find there isn't much you can do. People have rights - even when they are wrong. I hope something helps.
Take care,
Carol
=It is astonishing how much junk even poverty-level hoarders can accumulate.
=It makes HEALTH hazards for them, AND for any around them.
=You cannot change them.
=They will not change themselves at that late age.
=Each time they get moved elsewhere, the new place gets similarly or worse hoarded, unless those around them actively and aggressively prevent it.
=They WILL get terrifically angry when anyone tries to prevent them hoarding further.
When taking Mom to the Docs for evaluation, it might be helpful to write up a one-page letter to submit to her records.
On this letter, put short, descriptive one-liners that tell the Docs what she's been up to, and how she's been behaving.
By doing this, you can inform the Doc of things Mom might not be willing to admit to a new Doc, that CAN make a difference in treatment and diagnosis.
For my Mom, I did that, listing things she'd had difficulties with in the past, and what persisted currently. It allowed the Doc to prevent her from Drug seeking/stockpiling, for instance. [[Mom, and my siblings, refused to inform the Docs about her substance problems, lifetime of mental health issues, etc.]]
If Docs do not know of a patient's behaviors, patients come and go so briefly from Doc's scrutiny, MUCH medical, mental, etc. can be totally missed, unless someone who cares for them, submits a letter to the file for the Docs to read.