I've had her living with me for 7 months now and her condition of LBD has worsened. I currently have a caregiver coming in for the hours while I'm working, but the evenings are too much to bare. She's up at all hours of the night keeping everyone awake. Please share experiences.
She is going to be confused and disturbed because the routines that she was familiar with in your home will be temporarily disrupted, but she will adjust to the new routine, and you will be able to visit her, spoil her with treats, and sleep through the night.
My mother was 90 when she shattered her hip and came to live with me. We had always laughed that the two of us would NEVER to be able to live under the same roof, but I stubbornly insisted that I could give her better care than any residential setting.
I WAS WRONG. She was miserable, and I gained 60+ pounds and stopped sleeping.
The five+ years she spent in her beautiful care site were the happiest years she’d lived since my father had died. They loved her and she loved them. ALL of them.
If you’ve chosen the best nearby care facility you can find, and made your decision with love and compassion, you have nothing to regret.
Ask the staff at her new home how they suggest bringing her. Make yourself part of the movers and arrangers. Hug her ant tell her you’ll see her “soon”, and leave quietly.
Be at peace with your decision to provide for her and for yourself.
It was still a hot mess with him (and mom!) for a few days but the staff did a great job at constantly redirecting him and getting him through the transition.
Your mom will adapt to her new surroundings and be well cared for by a professional staff. You can be her advocate and visit as her daughter, instead of being an endlessly frazzled and exhausted caregiver.
Personally, I think you are ahead of the game by knowing your limitations. I wish that I hadn’t pushed myself so hard.
I wish you peace as you navigate your way through this difficult time in your life. All the best to you and your mom. Take care.