He cannot dial or answer phone so I'm struggling to leave at all. Desperately need surgery, but have no one else to b with him. Will have to get outside help soon as really do need surgery his family, is mad because he married me six and half yrs ago we pooled our money and what we have left is mine. Not too big amt. They think he's much better than is. He and first wife cashed in all insurance etc. Cannot imagine treating parent like this. He educated, gave all they had before we married. Actually all with any value. I had no idea that he wiped out savings and all to "put" daughter in business she partied big time and recently quit pretending to b a business and closed. Family does not call or care. He is incontinent as well as on oxygen and has bad dementia. I've decided if I outlive him will b no funeral
Please look at placing him in a nursing home. It doesn't sound as if you have a lot in assets, Medicaid has a program that will help you live decently with what you have left and you'd have your life again so that you can have surgery. Your husband would have care and you can visit as often as you are able.
You can find some resources by going to www.aging.gov and finding your state. This will give you a long lists of possible resources. Another option is your Area Agency on Aging. Someone needs to help you find a solution.
Take care of yourself. Your husband won't have anyone if you go down.
Carol
Grace + Peace,
Bob
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