My grand mother was rush to the hospital with C. difficile, and she has water on one side of her lungs and low pressure and has no more iron!!! She hasn’t eat for the past two weeks and she doesn’t drink either…. Last week she told the doctor she doesn’t want no more blood test and any treatment and she said she want to die… she sleep all days and she is so weak. It breaks my heart seeing her in that condition, I know she is giving up and I have to accept her wishes but I’m not ready to say goodbye!!! How long can she live that way?!? Do you think she could die in her sleep without suffering any pain?! Does the doctor could grant her wishes without telling any of us?!?
Please have family call hospice today.
Could she die quietly in her sleep? Again I am no expert, but in my dad’s case, the morphine he received in his final 2 days in hospice calmed him to a very quiet state.
For you I would say, meditate or pray on acceptance of what is. If you can, hold her hand, brush her hair, play some of her favorite music, and tell her how much she means to you. Maybe tell her the story of some of your favorite memories of her. even if she does not respond, she may hear the love in your voice. And you will be glad you did it.
I wish you and your family peace.
Grandma is very lucky to have such a sweet caring grandchild.
Nothing more to add , to what alvadear said .
Just be with Grandma and hold her hand, it's the best thing you can do for her.
🙏😥
Beset by this dreadful c-diff, appetite leaves, and honestly, whether food is taken or not, the movement through the digestive system is so rapid that few nutrients are absorbed. There was one cure -- briefly --and that was fecal transplants. Look them up. They were often INSTANT cures and still today, research mostly having stalled due to a natural reticence to ingest feces no matter the form--some are doing their OWN fecal transplants. Instructions abound on the internet.
Add to this your poor grandmother has apparently congestive heart failure (left side of the heart, the worst side to get it on, as fluid accumulating in lungs rather than the peripheral vascular system (many have BOTH left and right failure). There is really no cure for a weakening heart pump at this age; the only thing to do is to treat symptoms.
I know that there will be a POA or next of kin now. This person should and apparently has discussed grandmothers end of life wishes; it is time now to make her as comfortable as possible.
Your grandmother has had a long life. I full well know that doesn't make her passing any easier, though it may lessen your grief to be able to celebrate the fullness of a life and the end of suffering and fear of losses.
The best thing you can do now for your grandmother is to HONOR her wishes. And to let her know how much she has meant to you, and how you will remember her for all your life. My heart goes out to you in your grief. I wish you the best, and wish comfort, loving peace for your grandmother. Let he handle this as she wishes.