I live in my mother's house and provide 24 hour care, house cleaning, cooking, shopping and Dr. visits. Everything she needs plus I pay for more than half of the food. I fix and do upkeep on the house. I am her companion. She is only able to walk from the bedroom to the living room and watch TV. How much should I ask for pay?
Then you would need to draw up an employment contract with your mother. Pay usually would be minimum wage, and out of that pay one would need to take out payroll taxes, unless you are an "independent contractor", then you would need to be paying "estimated" quarterly taxes to the IRS. Please note, you cannot be paid for 24 hours per day, check with your State caregiver laws.
The real question of how much you should be paid may be a moot point. I can't imagine, even at minimum wage, what 24/7 payment would look like. But the real question is "How much money can your Mom afford to pay for 24/7 care?"
I would consider attending an elder care attorney with your Mom, or alone, and discuss with him a care contract and payment. I think you might get better guidance than we can give you.
Some states have some medicaid compensation, but it honestly is not enough payment for 24/7 care, and often we see a person who has moved in with an elder, come to Forum after the death of their LO, and tell us that they are now homeless, with no job history, and basically with nothing. In some cases we are left with telling them they must go to a shelter and start anew, saving for first a room with someone, then a small apartment, and making a whole new job history.
Only you can decide if you will basically sacrifice your life to the care of your LO.
Your compensation, should you make a care plan and care package and go over it with an attorney, would be reported to the IRS as any salary.
I wish you the best in ironing out what might work in your own case with you Mom and wish you the best ongoing.
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"I am the daughter and I live with my mother to care for her. I have a room and am here 24/7 with no pay, no days off. I cook, clean, care for mom. She can walk with a walker but doesn't do anything. I have to clean after her with her loss of bowel control. I also take care of the yard, do the shopping, and I am paid nothing. I need to know what I am worth and get paid by my brother who is I charge of her money."
How long have you been doing this for your 99 year-old mother? How did you come to be the one to become her 24/7/365 caregiving slave? When did you request payment from your brother, and what was his response? What are your mother's finances? Could she qualify for Medicaid?
More info would be helpful.