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He is very weak after below the knee amputation. Am I interfering with his rehab by being there every day? It seems like he has become more childish since the surgery.
He will try less in therapy if you are present...physical therapist usually don’t allow family members to participate or be in same room during therapy anyway.
Thank you. It does seem to depend on the physical therapist whether or not they like having the spouse there. Yesterday, I definitely got the feeling she was not happy having me there. I also came to the conclusion that he will try less. Hubby and I had a conversation this afternoon about his "goals," that are non-negotiable from my perspective, that will allow him to move back home. I've been looking at my teeny, tiny house and unless we remove a couple of walls around the bathroom area, I cannot get him in there even if we could get a Hoyer Lift!
My husband has spent the last 10 years sitting in his chair in the living room. He received a kidney transplant in 2008 that was very successful. But he just never had gotten into his hobbies after that. He complained that everything hurt, he didn't want to spend "all his time exercising.". I know he is depressed but doesn't want help. He's allowed himself to get so physically weak that unless he gets strong enough to move his body himself, I will not allow him to come home for me to wait on him. Wow . Just wow.
You can choose how often you visit. It is up to you not him.
My step dad has been in hospital for a month now. He is on Palliative care and Mum will not have him back home. She cannot physically or mentally manage caring for him 24/7.
But she does go to the hospital 2 times a day, in the morning she brings him homemade porridge and feeds him as much as he wants to eat. She returns in the evening and helps him to eat the provided dinner. It is wearing her out and I plan to take her out for a day in a couple weeks. She needs a break.
We are lucky the the hospital is less than 5 minutes from her home.
If you stay away , do you think your hubby will do the work he needs to do? Could that motivate him? Knowing that you will not bring him home unless he can do x,y and z for himself?
I can only tell you what I did. I was at the rehab facility every day from morning until night. That is because I was so worried and wanted to be involved with her rehab. It was tough going home at night. She wanted to go home very badly but I needed her to stay and get better. She has dementia with aphasia. She had trouble eating and complying with the therapists. But in the end it was worth it to me. When she went in she could not stand let alone walk. When she left she used a walker until she got home. She no longer needed it. I helped her eat, go to the bath room, took her on tours of the place and held her hand. In my opinion you should spend whatever amount of time you feel comfortable with. If you could give us a little more information on him and you it might help the others with some guide lines. And don't forget the Teepa Snow videos.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My step dad has been in hospital for a month now. He is on Palliative care and Mum will not have him back home. She cannot physically or mentally manage caring for him 24/7.
But she does go to the hospital 2 times a day, in the morning she brings him homemade porridge and feeds him as much as he wants to eat. She returns in the evening and helps him to eat the provided dinner. It is wearing her out and I plan to take her out for a day in a couple weeks. She needs a break.
We are lucky the the hospital is less than 5 minutes from her home.
If you stay away , do you think your hubby will do the work he needs to do? Could that motivate him? Knowing that you will not bring him home unless he can do x,y and z for himself?
She has dementia with aphasia. She had trouble eating and complying with the therapists. But in the end it was worth it to me.
When she went in she could not stand let alone walk. When she left she used a walker until she got home. She no longer needed it.
I helped her eat, go to the bath room, took her on tours of the place and held her hand.
In my opinion you should spend whatever amount of time you feel comfortable with.
If you could give us a little more information on him and you it might help the others with some guide lines. And don't forget the Teepa Snow videos.