I moved Mom into assisted living 4 months ago, she is under hospice for chf but in the last month has improved and is doing much better, walking now, off oxygen and eating all her meals in the dining room. This is a premium ALF and it is 5 mins from my home. I have been going to see her every day, I work full time and I must admit I am worn out, Mom always seems to want more..I have been told by the staff I should visit less as there is only myself and my spouse, no other relatives, my husband is getting tired of me being so drained all the time.
The facility offers 3 meals a day, many different social activities and a shuttle service to anywhere she needs to go.
My twin sister and I live fairly close to the facility but we both work full time. We feel like we’re being pulled in so many directions with work, family life and seeing our mom.
We feel like we’re at our moms beck and call and even though she has several activities a day to choose from, she relies on us for her entertainment.
We love our mom dearly and would like to know what is expected out of us in visiting her.
We are both feeling guilted into seeing her way more than we have time for right now.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you
You and your sister figure out a schedule. Visit just on the weekends. You take Saturday mornings or afternoons for an hour... and your sister take Sunday, or vise versa. Or choose another day during the week. Fuss over her by saying Saturday [or Sunday] will be our time :)
Does the facility offer physical therapy? My Dad use to go to physical therapy every other day, so that was an "activity" he looked forward to going. After lunch he would doze off.