Hello everyone. I need your advice!
I really can not understand her attitude. She complains, complains and complains. She asks for help and then decides that it is not for her. My mother is losing her memory. The specialists did not want to say the word Alzheimer's clearly, although for me that goes around like my grandmother whom I help take care of. I looked for help for her and she was attending cognitive therapy but she decided to leave she did not like having to get up early and go to the public hospital, she had to do the exercises at home and she did not like to do them as the therapist indicated and she had tried abandon the therapy and the third time I accepted. I got her to see my grandmother's psychiatrist specializing in this type of problem because she wanted something more radical with the problem of memory and the first thing she does is not follow the instructions. A few months ago she decided not to see the nephrologist because she did not like him despite being the first time she saw him. Of course in other circumstances I would agree with her and try to find another nephrologist, but I live in Venezuela, my country has many types of problems: political, hyperinflation, it is not possible to find many medicines and the public health system is terrible. How is it possible that she is wasting those opportunities and how can I deal with her attitude?
If you ensure that mom's safe and you could get some respite care for yourself, I'd say you have done your best. Do something nice for yourself daily so that you have strength to deal with her attitude day after day after day....
If you live in the same house with her, get out. If you don’t have a job, getting out may involve finding someone else, like home health care, to care for Grandma, while you get a job and work to pay your rent.
As long as you are in constant contact with your mother, things will not change. She will not change. There’s nothing you can do about it but make your own life.