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Your dad is an adult, yes? And has not been declared incompetent?

He gets to make his own bad choices and the consequences that ensue. Offer food. I wouldn't cajole.

If he ends up symptomatic, call 911.

I know I sound mean-spirited. But caring for your father shouldnt mean putting yourself or your family in physical danger.

If he ends up hospitalized, tell the discharge folks that he has become a danger to himself and to your family and that he requires placement. Do not let them send him back to your home.
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Dfm1030 May 2020
THanks so much. I really appreciate it. Sometimes I second guess my self if I doing the right thing. Again thank you
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Have you ever watched any Teepa Snow videos on YouTube? She's an occupational therapist who is a specialist in working with folks with dementia.

I think that some of her techniques might be useful for you to learn and use with your dad.
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Dfm1030 May 2020
THanks. Will check it out. Have a question since my dad is still sulking for past week . Because he is still mad at me for calling police on his aggressive behavior. I worry only because of his diabetes and he refused to eat any my cooking. So I don't know what he has eating. Or should I let him sulk. Overall he is self sufficient. Except for his biopolar flare ups.
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I’m so sorry. I don’t think you could have reasoned with him at this point.

It’s easy to second guess what you should have done but bipolar is a chemical imbalance. Meds have to be taken and monitored.

Whenever he is able to see a psychiatrist you can discuss future treatment for him.
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Dfm1030 May 2020
THanks for responding. After this Covid 19 ends. Hope to find a new Psychiatrist who deals with geriatric patients.
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I would not poke the wasp's nest. Let him sulk.

I'm so glad you called the police.

Have you talked to his PCP about his recent aggression? Might be that he has a UTI. Can you get him tested for that?
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Dfm1030 May 2020
THanks. Seen by Pcp 2 months ago. Had labs done. Sugar stable. He has diabetes as well. Not the first he has been verbal abusive and aggressive behavior. Just it happens alot and then he stays mad at me for a week or so when I confront his behavior
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Is his care being managed by a geriatric psychiatrist?

What meds are being given to manage his symptoms?
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Dfm1030 May 2020
He was seeing a psychiatrist, but since has retired. Tried to get the clinic to set up new one, with no prevail. When the doctor retired we were not told. We only found out when called to get his refill of Prolixin.. was able get one from Pcp. Dad been on this Rx for over 20 Yrs. I feel it is not working anymore. My dad refused to try anything new. He can be good some days and when doesn't get his way . He becomes verbal aggressive and sometimes can get physical. Had incident last Saturday where I to call the police because he and my husband got in argument which my husband got hurt. My father was giving me a hard time on using grill outside. I was trying to explain that the reason the temperature was going up because propane was running out. He refused to let me to get food off grill to continue cooking in house. That's why husband interfered which caused argument. Right he is staying in his room and refusing to eat my cooking or talk to me at this time. Should I let him to continue to not address the problem or let him stay in room. Thanks
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