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My MIL has been diagnosed with moderate dementia. We have found some wonderful Assisted Living communities for her because she keeps telling us "I have to get out of this house" one day and then next "I don't want to move "I am going to die in this house". The house has become too much to handle and she has become so depressed and recently she has started falling down. We don't know what to do. As I said we have found several places which she wants to go see, but then when we get there she changes her mind before we even walk in the door and refuses to even pay attention to the tour of the facility and is quite rude. I know that if we do find a place she agrees to she will change her mind before she moves. Anyone have any suggestions?

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When I was touring facilities for my mom, I was told by the staff that it is best to make the transition of moving into a facility sooner, rather than later.

The longer she waits, the harder it will become. Dementia complicates your situation further.

My mom did the same thing. She would say that she knew that the day would come when her required care would become too much for a family member to do.

My mother’s fear of the unknown got to her. She used to be the rock of our family. As she aged she was riddled with anxiety but refused discussing medication for anxiety with her doctor. So, I was stuck! It’s frustrating.

I imagine that it’s a fairly common response for certain elderly people to have chronic anxiety over changes in living arrangements.

I feel there are advantages to being in a facility. I regret that my mother refused to go.

Best wishes to you and your family.
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With the dementia factor things will quickly go one way, then the other. Who is the POA at this time? Is MIL unsafe at home alone and do you have documentation to that effect. Does MIL understand that she does have a progressive dementia and will be in need of more care ongoing to one extent or another, or is she in denial. There are many factors. Be certain all paperwork is in place. If it comes down to it often a hospitalization bring the acknowledgement that steps must be taken, and temporary guardianship is sometimes more easily got by Social Workers with a call to a judge for placement than otherwise. I wish you luck.
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