My mom is 80 and has Alzheimer's. She is starting to not recognize my father and trying to leave. The local memory care wants to meet with her before going forward, how do we get her to go to the meeting? She knows she has memory issues, but refuses to admit what the problem is and that it is getting worse. She gets very stubborn when you try and get her to do something she doesn't want to do and thinks people are plotting against her
The wellness director at my mother’s MC came out to her and did the interview that way. My mother wasn’t told the company that she represented.
Just as you wouldn’t give every bit of info to a small child, we can’t give it to a person living with dementia.
I would discuss with the memory care place. Generally people entering memory care are "interviewed" to see if they are manageable. If they don't "show for the interview" there may be some cherry picking of residents more amenable to going into care.
So TRY HARD. What I would suggest is that you tell Mom "We are going to a place I am thinking of moving to. Would you come to help me look around? I have to have an interview there".
From there it is, as with all things "dementia" a case of "expect the unexpected".