My aunt is in a N.H. for rehab after hip surgery. When she requests specific items from home (like a certain perfume, piece of clothing, jewelry, etc.), sometimes I can't locate them or I bring what I think she wants.If it's the wrong thing or I am unable to find the items she gets upset with me and complains. It happens when she is home, too. She may describe "the blue and white shirt" but when I bring one, it's "I didn't want that one. I need the other blue and white shirt with the stripes". So now it's another trip upstairs to search again. Sometimes it's two or three times before I get it right. She sleeps downstairs in the living room because she can't walk upstairs yet. All of her clothes are kept in her bedroom.
Her life doesn't have to be perfect. YOURS will get better when you start standing up for yourself. Have you ever tried going to a therapist? It might help with this.