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And not keep worrying about the next time there is a crisis or big problem with Mom? Things are pretty calm right now. How to appreciate now. And not think about something could come up at anytime?
It's human to worry, Hadnuff, but you're also wise enough to see that worry is keeping you from enjoying the quiet times.
Meditation can help us live in the moment. Meditation can mean something as formal as guided meditation (you can get CDs or find methods online) or it can mean prayer. It can mean sitting quietly in a calm place and practicing just "being” while you breathe slowly, concentrating on your body’s relaxed response.
Reading something that you enjoy can also be a form of meditation in that it takes you out of your tumbled mindset and into another world, if just temporarily. A long bath with fragrant soap, a warm (or cool) drink, soothing music, anything that soothes you can help you live in the moment. Just believing that you deserve this time of not worrying can help.
We've all faced a lot of emergencies so it's hard to let go of that always being on call feeling. Unless you're more skilled than most of us, you likely won't completely feel free of stress. However, as I've heard people say - we are human beings not human doings. We don't have to be accomplishing something every minute. We deserve some quiet time. Time to be. Try to detach emotionally from the feeling that the world will end if you aren’t in charge of things at all times. Few of us find it easy to live in the moment. We are either ruminating over the past or planning our next move. But that’s how life passes us by.
I hope that you can take a deep breathe and work on knowing that you deserve this bit of quiet time with no drama. Then do whatever sounds soothing – or make up your own fun. We behind you all the way. Carol
Great question. Responsible people often worry. This requires daily stress management. The crisis I fear may never occur, challenges I never considered come up. I try to get good rest, exercise, keep a sense of humor, vent here on this site, and have faith that whatever happens, my sister and I will figure it out with the help of god, and a few good doctors and lawyers.
Hadnuff, It is like waiting for the other shoe to drop. If nothing has happened for awhile, then that becomes a worry too. There are peaceful breathing exercises you could try. Everyone does that a little different. I try to start thanking God for everything good he is and has done in our lives and in the lives of people we pray for. If you really think about it, especially when there is a crisis you are exactly living in the present moment. You already know how to do that, right? However, I think I know what you are talking about. Often, it is just like having PTSD, you are reliving or expecting a crisis, when it doesn't come, your mind is experiencing the crisis as if it is happening now, then your body follows in cooperation with your thoughts with physiological responses of flight or fight. CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, somehow, check back for other's responses before you become ill. Good that you asked your question now.
Yoga is right it is human to worry, to plan, and to anticipate the next crisis. Nobody, other than the caregivers have a realisic, though many times what appears to others a pessimistic or negative outlook on our loved ones health. But, IMHO, better to be prepared for the worst than not be ready because of living in the land of denial.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Meditation can help us live in the moment. Meditation can mean something as formal as guided meditation (you can get CDs or find methods online) or it can mean prayer. It can mean sitting quietly in a calm place and practicing just "being” while you breathe slowly, concentrating on your body’s relaxed response.
Reading something that you enjoy can also be a form of meditation in that it takes you out of your tumbled mindset and into another world, if just temporarily.
A long bath with fragrant soap, a warm (or cool) drink, soothing music, anything that soothes you can help you live in the moment. Just believing that you deserve this time of not worrying can help.
We've all faced a lot of emergencies so it's hard to let go of that always being on call feeling. Unless you're more skilled than most of us, you likely won't completely feel free of stress. However, as I've heard people say - we are human beings not human doings. We don't have to be accomplishing something every minute. We deserve some quiet time. Time to be. Try to detach emotionally from the feeling that the world will end if you aren’t in charge of things at all times.
Few of us find it easy to live in the moment. We are either ruminating over the past or planning our next move. But that’s how life passes us by.
I hope that you can take a deep breathe and work on knowing that you deserve this bit of quiet time with no drama. Then do whatever sounds soothing – or make up your own fun. We behind you all the way.
Carol
I try to start thanking God for everything good he is and has done in our lives and in the lives of people we pray for. If you really think about it, especially when there is a crisis you are exactly living in the present moment. You already know how to do that, right?
However, I think I know what you are talking about. Often, it is just like having PTSD, you are reliving or expecting a crisis, when it doesn't come, your mind is experiencing the crisis as if it is happening now, then your body follows in cooperation with your thoughts with physiological responses of flight or fight.
CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, somehow, check back for other's responses before you become ill. Good that you asked your question now.