My mom is in the hospital now, and her dementia seemed to flair up at the second day, but now has calmed down. She is going to rehab after the hospital, but I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I've done research on dementia, but sometimes she seems so lucid.
I think you should definitely let your mom go to rehab, whether she has dementia or not. This not only gives her more time to regain her strength, but it also gives you more time to observe her and to explore the options for her release. Return home with in-home care? Go to assisted living? Does she need a memory care unit? A nursing home?
Rehab buys you both some time. Take advantage of it.
(My mom's been in rehab twice. My husband, who had dementia, was in rehab once. All facilities are NOT created equal. Stay with your mom as much as you can the first few days until you get a sense of the place and what kind of continued observation/care may be needed from you while she is there.)
glorim, what are you doing/considering doing that you don't know if it is the right thing?
It must be so hard to see your mother in the state she is in. I have a hard time keeping my patience, especially when I am getting brow beaten over evrything I do to try to help..its hard to help someone who cares nothing about helping themselves..
My sweet mom at 91 is in her last stage of dementia, she has stopped eating and drinking and is bedridden. It's the last days of her life and I grateful that I was able to be there for her.