Feeling tugged in a million directions. Hi, I am new here. Right now my Mom, who is 81 and has Congestive Heart Failure and COPD lives in her own home.
My father passed away last November. I just picked her up from the hospital today as she has been in for breathing problems. Although we stop in every day, and call her constantly, we missed the fact that she was in bad shape over the weekend. I brought her to the ER and they kept her. I work full-time and have my own home with my husband and occassionally my 19 year old son. I am planning on staying with her tonight as I don't think she should be alone. I don't know which way to turn, my husband wants me home, I feel I should be with my Mom. I have two siblings who do there part, but I am the one Mom counts on. She is very caring and would never want me to be going through this if she knew I was. How have other people handled this situation? I should say that a year ago, this week, we watched our Dad pass away from Pulmonary Fibrosis, so I am pretty emotional right now.
Does anyone have any hints to get through this?
He sat me down and told me that I could no longer neglect him or the kids. It was a wake up call I took to heart. I did NOT want to lose my marriage over this.
What do your siblings do? If at all possible get them to each take a day where they check on mom. You do NOTHING on those days. If you have to get someone to come in and be with your mom for 2 days a week, do it. They can check on her, keep her company and cook her meals. Listen to your husband! You will not regret it.