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They say the only stupid question is the one that should be asked but isn't. Therefore, I'm going to go ahead and ask: Does he really need to be shaved? Maybe he would be content to let his beard grow, and then trimmed when he gets a haircut (assuming he gets them--of course I don't know if he is bald or has a full head of hair!).
I have had a full beard for a couple decades, mainly because I have somewhat of an overbite so I feel I look better with a beard (and get lots of compliments on it--especially at this time of the year because it is white!) I use scissors to trim it about once or twice a week, usually after a shower which softens it, and then I comb it out before I trim it.
Because he has dementia, he is most likely delusional. He could be envisioning all sorts of things when the aide comes toward him with a razor. Why not buy him an electric shaver? If he is capable, let him attempt to shave himself.
When my aunt who is now dead had dementia I was the only one that she trusted to cut her toenails, they were extremely bad, no one else was allowed to cut her toenails, no nurse, no aid no other family member, somehow she trusted me and me alone maybe you could try to shave him? Maybe he would trust you more? have you tried it? As of right now my father is the only one that allows me to shave him and he is not in the best mental state currently, and is also on Pradaxa so a minor cut could bleed for hours. I also had him buy an electric razor which makes a world of difference if you buy a good one, do not buy a cheap 20-30 dollar electric they are bad for older people because of thin and droopy skin. Also I found a 4 bladed razor works great as well.. Also try to talk about something that calms him down, does he like jokes, or talking about the old days, try to find something that he is aware of that he would remember that would help in calming him down before and during the shave.
My father is a veteran in the advanced stage of dementia. Always let them know they are about to get shaved. He still jumps around when I shave him, but it works w no cuts. The sound of an electric razor made him unmanageable. I use the sensitive bic shavers (new one each time) with lots(twice the normal amt) of shaving cream/gel. Dampen hair to be shaved w warm water. Coat w cream. Let it stay on for 10 min(if hair is real coarse, wrap damp towel around chin), while bathing other parts. Coat again w cream. Pull skin when shaving. Apply more cream, if needed. Take it slow. Apply his favorite after shave when cream has all been washed off. Brag about how good he looks.
Obviously you've mastered this...but for others just to add that my dad who is functional/capable has used an electric shaver always, and he began to have some terribly red/ dry skin issues. I took him to the dematology people who discovered with me he was using an aftershave that was alcohol based and with his aging skin more fragile that was a horrible thing to be using on freshly shaved skin especially.
When my husband’s Alzheimer’s progressed, I got him an electric razor. First he was able to shave himself, then i helped. When he moved to memory care, the cnas shaved him. As the disease progressed, I found he needed more warning of what was coming next as he couldn’t anticipate and would be surprised and frightened if someone just started grooming him. Best wishes.
My father was the same way, we prepared him ahead of time...he did OK, but not perfectly....but in the end he was happy to see his clean shaven face when we showed him in a mirror....my husband shaved him with an electric razor...perhaps say "Do you know what today is?" You are getting a shave!" give him a hand mirror, see how good he looks...or perhaps if he doesn't like the aid perhaps you can shave him instead?
Yes - speak with the authorities about this - it is possible that he is being scared or even hurt. Make sure that your DH is NOT feeling threatened by the aide.
Have you tried to shave him? I had to learn how to shave my DH when he was no longer able to stand at the sink to shave himself. We even used a roll-around-cart and a mirror so he could shave himself sitting. But eventually, I had to learn how to shave him. I went to YouTube and watched several videos. I didn't do a stellar job, but he coached me along and it was doable.
P.S. dads1caregiver gave you great advice! please read it again. and again. as often as needed.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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I have had a full beard for a couple decades, mainly because I have somewhat of an overbite so I feel I look better with a beard (and get lots of compliments on it--especially at this time of the year because it is white!) I use scissors to trim it about once or twice a week, usually after a shower which softens it, and then I comb it out before I trim it.
Is he new to AL or has he been there awhile and this is nee behavior?
If it is a sudden change in mental status, alert his doctor. It could be a UTI.
Have you tried to shave him? I had to learn how to shave my DH when he was no longer able to stand at the sink to shave himself. We even used a roll-around-cart and a mirror so he could shave himself sitting. But eventually, I had to learn how to shave him. I went to YouTube and watched several videos. I didn't do a stellar job, but he coached me along and it was doable.
P.S. dads1caregiver gave you great advice! please read it again. and again. as often as needed.
Good Luck to you. May you be blessed.
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