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He walks with walker, leaves it everywhere. Lots of confusion. I am seeing a lot of change. He always wanted my help, now is being very difficult to deal with. We have no extra income, need help but do not know where to turn next.
Katy, Dad had PD with dementia too. It's such an ugly, cruel disease. My advice is to try to get ahead of everything in terms of planning. The decline can be slow or very rapid, and it's hard enough to take care of them, but only worse when you're chasing the problems. I'm thankful that your children come and call. I will point out that Dad seemed to leave his walker everywhere when he lived with me. I think it's that his judgement was off, and he always thought it was closer than it was--just part of the dementia. Best wishes.
Thank you for feed back! I will consider meals on wheels & snow canceled visit to doc. am going again soon. My children do come come when they can, call daily lets me vent and to give helpful advise. working on getting help. Friends are a big help!
Has your husband seen his doctor recently? It's always prudent to report any changes in health or mental status to the doctor.
Dementia is progressive. Now would be the time to put a few plans in place. You don't want to be making major decisions while under more stress. Have you considered home health? They can come in a few days a week and lighten your load considerably. They can help your husband get showered, fix him a meal or two, change the linens. It's something to consider. However, it is expensive.
Do you have family support? Adult children? Perhaps you can encourage them to come by to visit their dad more regularly. Maybe for several hours on a weekend. This too could ease up some of the pressure on you and hopefully put your husband in a better mood. At the very least, let your children know that their father's health has deteriorated. Moral support is better than nothing.
You may want to look into Medicaid if your husband has to move to a skilled nursing facility. Many people embark upon this task on their own but I've always believed in going down this road with a social worker who can assist you in what you need to do. I would think that your husband's doctor's office can refer you to someone.
Meals-on-wheels is a great resource. For a small weekly donation (usually $5) they'll bring you 2 meals around noon. Many people eat them then but others save them for dinner. It will cut down on cooking and the people who bring the meals are volunteers and are so nice. Google "Meals on wheels" and your zip code.
When your husband tells you to go away, go away. It's not a nice thing to say to ones spouse and I know it's hurtful however unless he is endangering himself give him his space. People with dementia are often prickly with a short fuse. It's not you, it's the dementia. Try not to fuss with him or flutter around him. If he says he can do something, let him do it. For instance, if you're helping him button his shirt and he becomes irritated just stop and let him do it himself. If he misses a couple of buttons so be it. Unless you're going out it doesn't really matter. If he doesn't want your help with something and he's not in danger of being injured leave him be.
Find something for yourself that you enjoy. Going to church, curling up with a good book, crossword puzzles. It could be anything. Indulge in something you enjoy doing. It's good for the soul.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Dementia is progressive. Now would be the time to put a few plans in place. You don't want to be making major decisions while under more stress. Have you considered home health? They can come in a few days a week and lighten your load considerably. They can help your husband get showered, fix him a meal or two, change the linens. It's something to consider. However, it is expensive.
Do you have family support? Adult children? Perhaps you can encourage them to come by to visit their dad more regularly. Maybe for several hours on a weekend. This too could ease up some of the pressure on you and hopefully put your husband in a better mood. At the very least, let your children know that their father's health has deteriorated. Moral support is better than nothing.
You may want to look into Medicaid if your husband has to move to a skilled nursing facility. Many people embark upon this task on their own but I've always believed in going down this road with a social worker who can assist you in what you need to do. I would think that your husband's doctor's office can refer you to someone.
Meals-on-wheels is a great resource. For a small weekly donation (usually $5) they'll bring you 2 meals around noon. Many people eat them then but others save them for dinner. It will cut down on cooking and the people who bring the meals are volunteers and are so nice. Google "Meals on wheels" and your zip code.
When your husband tells you to go away, go away. It's not a nice thing to say to ones spouse and I know it's hurtful however unless he is endangering himself give him his space. People with dementia are often prickly with a short fuse. It's not you, it's the dementia. Try not to fuss with him or flutter around him. If he says he can do something, let him do it. For instance, if you're helping him button his shirt and he becomes irritated just stop and let him do it himself. If he misses a couple of buttons so be it. Unless you're going out it doesn't really matter. If he doesn't want your help with something and he's not in danger of being injured leave him be.
Find something for yourself that you enjoy. Going to church, curling up with a good book, crossword puzzles. It could be anything. Indulge in something you enjoy doing. It's good for the soul.