His health (physical and mental) and living conditions have deteriorated quite a bit. Am thinking it is time for him to go to nursing. He is refusing to go. His family and son will not help me at all. What are the 1st steps I can take? Who do I call? I don't know where to begin. We are in Nashville, Tennessee.
That means YOU do not need the approval of his family and son to help you.
Look for a facility that will accept him and if you need to begin the process of Medicaid application do so.
You also have the legal power to sell his house to help pay for his care. Any sale should be at Fair Market Value so if family gets wind of the fact that house is for sale and they want to purchase it has to be FMV.
If they have belongings in the house you can ask that they be removed by a set date. (you should be there so that they do not take items that do not belong to them) If items remain after set date they can be sold, donated, trashed.
Do not let family members bully you into keeping him at home if it is not safe to do so.
Department of Human Services Adult Protective Services
400 Deaderick St, Nashville, Tn 37243
The website will have the phone number for you.
You badly need them to open a case for you; tell them this is a senior at risk.
Wish you the best of luck and hope you will update us.
Find more information by googling "Adult Protective Services Nashville TN.