I buy food and pay utilities. She lives in an in-law apt downstairs. How do I not feel hurt - I take her to hopsitals doctors, food shopping, hairdressers. I feel so hurt, I am the oldest. The way she told me was very hurtful saying she needs to have it fixed, so I said lets go and have it fixed - then she said I wonder if your sister will wear it, my heart sunk. I don't begrudge her, it is her stuff, but I am the only one that does everything - how do I stop feeling sorry for myself?
You resent her because you ShOULD! She's taking from you. Resentment is the natural emotion to feel.
She is clearly telling you that she prefers your sister to you. Why isn't she living with her favored child? (Are there other siblings, or just the two of you?)
Please stop allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Let's help you brainstorm some plans to either get her to pay you (for your TIME as well as your financial output for her) or to move her out.
Do you also pay for her medical needs, hairdresser, etc.? If so, WHY???
Are you being paid for what you are doing?
If not, ask yourself "why not?" and tell mom how much it's going to cost to continue this arrangement.
You are being taken advantage of if mom is not paying her way and giving away valuables.
I was given a ring by some of my now deceased loved ones, and now another family member has accused me of somehow acquiring it unfairly, although I’m oblivious to any and all drama about it.
THEY are in possession (or WERE) of a relatively low value birthstone ring that was my Godmother’s for the birth month that she and I shared.
I would happily trade ring for ring but offended spouse proudly sold off jewelry when it came into her possession, and we’re just on the fringe of restoring bare bones communications, so still a bit of a muddle......
Something about jewelry though.