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I don't know if I've said anything about this before but I feel like I'm falling in the rabbit hole and don't know what to do....


I am having periods where I can not recall anything that has gone on - for very long times. I have done this at least 4 times where I can not remember doing anything, like a couple weeks ago, I took my husband to have a procedure done at the hospital and I remember walking down to the room with him, I remember holding his hand but from the time he went back to the time we got home, I have no recollection of what happened. Another time, my mother took me to a dr's appt and I do not remember that AT ALL. This has happened several times plus I'm having trouble with thoughts, completing tasks, forgetting where I am going or stopping in the middle of a sentence - forgetting what I was saying or can't remember things that happened 5 minutes ago.


First is AD hereditary or genetic? (or are those two words the same?) My father has vascular dementia and has had several strokes. Does this increase my likelihood of having it?


I do have a neurologist appt next week, so I'm hoping they'll take my concerns seriously. I'm only 50 so I figure if something IS happening maybe they can start something to keep it from progressing quickly.


Am I right to be very concerned about this or am I just a normal 50 year old that can't remember sh*t?

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Depression can also do that. If the neurologist checks out ok, you may need some help for stress relief/ depression
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All great and varied answers...I'm going to throw in my two cents in the 'could be perimenopause' camp. In my case situational stress created a perfect perimenopausal storm, it's been kicking my arse! Didn't know about peri brain fog until recently. It's a nuisance but definitely worth looking into this as a cause...it really sucks but at least peri is temporary ( feels like it lasts forever though! ) I haven't found a perfect formula to handle it, but, I keep repeating to myself that it won't last forever, which is helpful to me.

And fyi what it's worth I screwed up cooking rice yesterday....twice in a row. Also clothing mishaps and losing my phone go hand in hand. Running errands in my slippers and losing my phone...putting phone on top of the car and driving off with it while wearing my shirt backwards and inside out. You are in good company!

Wishing you the best with this issue!!
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anonymous828521 Aug 2019
So true Madison.👍
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It is the change that rises alarm bells - however other things can mimic dementia - glad hear you are getting checked out soon

If you can't remember where you keys are at 65 doesn't mean much if at age 25 you could never find them either - if it is new & you're relatively young it could be many other issues
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MarieM462 Aug 2019
That's true and nothing new in my case.. When I was younger and still living at home I'd accuse family members of getting/moving my things. When I got out on my own and living alone I kept misplacing things and had no one else to blame. I'm in my 70ies now and had it just started I'd really be worried. I try to do too many things at once and get easily distracted, always been that way and it's a constant struggle to remember to slow down and be aware of where I'm putting things.
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Yes, Seeing the Signs of Dementia or Maybe something else. Get Checked soon.
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Please see your neurologist and get an M.R.I., which is the gold standard to detect for dementia. Do not be alarmed, but do not wait either. Prayers to you.
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Definitely check with your neurologist, but are you under a lot of stress?
I am 48 and about 4-5 months ago, I had those very same issues. I couldn't gather/find my words in the middle of a sentence, would forget the names of simple things, would forget a lot of things 5 minutes later and couldn't recall many conversations. On top of that, I would put items in strange places, not remember where I put them and I also couldn't focus. Creativity and coming up with any ideas were out of the picture- I couldn't think straight! My 80 year old mom told me I needed to get checked for Alzheimers and my hubby swore that I had ADHD. I even started to think something was wrong with me.
Fast forward to now. I went to a new job with MUCH less stress. I couldn't believe just how much less until all of those problems went away!! I even started coming up with new ideas at my new job after about 2 weeks or so there. I couldn't believe it. I also no longer have the brain fog I used to have. I still once in a while forget where I've put something, but that usually happens when I am in a rush.
My former job was extremely fast-paced and I was always doing at least 10 things at any given time.
I have a lot of things that have happened to me over the years which have been very stressful, and a lot of bad things still going on, but apparently my job was affecting me the worst.
Stress does a whole lot to your mind and body. Your brain tends to kick out information that it doesn't feel is needed as well.
Best wishes to you on your checkup!!
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Zdarov Jul 2019
Good story, very happy for you!
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I felt similar to you when I returned to work after a health sabbatical. I felt as if my ability to learn new things had disappeared, and My ability to focus was gone.
my neurologist (who I see because I have a meningioma brain tumor) referred me for a full neuropsych exam. I’m the same age as you... work a very stressful full time job, take care of my dad, have two kids, etc.... and it turns out that stress was playing a part in my mental fog.

A full neuropsychological exam will measure you against others of the same age, and give you lots of answers. In addition, an MRI of the brain will also give you answers about why you have sudden changes in your memory if it’s related to your brain.

I wish you the best. Good thing you’re going to get checked!
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Such great suggestions on this thread. I sure do hope we will get an update.
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I had the same problems, plus fatigue and clumsiness (dropping things, tripping/falling), and was finally diagnosed with Hashimoto's autoimmune hypothyroidism. After 6 weeks of medication, I was back to normal.

Twenty years later, I started having quite the same symptoms with even worse brain fog, but my thyroid hormone levels were normal. At my sister's urging (she is an RN), I finally found a doctor who was willing to test me for pernicious anemia, which is also an autoimmune disease with symptoms that are nearly identical to hypothyroidism. (Autoimmune diseases tend to travel in herds, so if you have one, you may well develop others.) I now get monthly B-12 injections, which have helped tremendously, but I'm still not completely symptom-free, which I attribute to the stress of caring for my 87-year old disabled mom.

In addition to your neurological exam, you should also strongly consider an endocrinological workup, especially since you are at perimenopausal age. There are indeed many things that could cause the symptoms you describe, but hopefully it won't take long to arrive at a proper diagnosis.

PS - I was 40 when I was diagnosed with the Hashimoto's, and 60 when I was diagnosed with the pernicious anemia. My menopause symptoms started at 42 and lasted until I was 55.

Good luck! And let us know how things turn out.
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Glad you have a doctor's appointment, that is what I would recommend as an RN. Second, try to write down or journal your symptoms and bring it to your appointment. Many things can cause this recent memory problem: mini strokes, allergies, imbalances in electrolytes, lack of sleep or sleep difficulties... Research on Alzheimer's disease has not found anything concrete as a causative agent: hereditary/genetic, infectious agent, faulty metabolism... It manifests as difficulties with the executive functions in the brain - those dealing with decision-making, math (as in managing finances), and recent memory. If it is Alzheimer's disease, medications can help manage those symptoms successfully for many, many years. There are treatment options for the other possible causes. Meanwhile, continue to have your family and friends help you with - as they are already doing. God bless!
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I've read a lot of the responses - just a few comments...

- Thankfully, you have a lot of people on here who care about you - we all do :) Even if it's online, it's a support line. ,
- Being well intended, there's a lot of theories that we've all offered of what could be wrong. I'm not trying to downplay the symptoms, but like my mom used to do - she would look up one symptom on WebMD and she suddenly thought she had a fatal disease. None of us intend to do that.
- With that said, don't let what all of us have collectively offered scare you. We are all racking through our heads of what it 'could be'. Our intentions are the best. The point here is not to scare you fo what it 'could be' - our intent is to motivate you to continue your journey in engaging with your doctors.
- The most important thing, which you are already doing, is to see your doctor, be upfront about what you're feeling, let the docs run some tests that make sense, and take it a day at a time.
- Debbiedaz put it best: 'let the professionals figure it out'.
- We're all here for you :)
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Set up a appointment with your doctor and see if there are tests, MRIs, etc., that need to be run on you.  Maybe you are under a lot of stress right now and a simple vacation would help you.  Maybe you need something to relax you in the form of a medication.  Could be a lot of things.  Let the professionals figure it out.
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It could be your thyroid. Hypothyroidism has symptoms of major brain fog. Seek out a functional medicine doctor over your mainstream primary physician. They’ll find the root cause and have different standards for thyroid testing. I had symptoms of thyroid disfunction for years (cold all the time, anxiety and major brain fog) and my primary care doctor got pissy with me for continually asking her to retest my thyroid when she said my tests were always normal. Which was pointless anyways since the way their testing standards work they don’t read warning levels of thyroid hormones which tell you your headed towards a thyroid disaster. I finally found a doctor not in my insurance network to do the thyroid testing and I came up as positive for Hashimoto's disease. I’m much better after diet changes and an array of nutritional supplements. My brain is now clear and sharp. Beat of luck to you and I hope you find some answers. Lots of great ideas posted.
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You are doing the right thing by getting checked out by doctors.

I had similar symptoms in my late 40’s. It scared the bejesus out of me. I was forgetting conversations, forgetting what I was doing while preparing dinner.

I went to my GP and broke down in tears. I was incredibly afraid that I was losing my marbles. The first thing he did was reassure me that people with dementia do not recognize there is a problem.

After blood work it was determined that I have B12 anemia. I was started on pills and the lab work was repeated a week or two later to check if I would need it by injection. I did not.

Menopause can also wreck havoc on women as hormone levels drop and we learn to live with different body chemistry.

please report back the results of your appointment.
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Have you been tested AND evaluated for Lyme? I had these same experiences before finally being diagnosed which in itself is not always easy (I had had it for a minimum of 10 years before it got so bad and I was diagnosed according to a specialist later).
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It's far more likely to be stress.

Vascular dementia is usually the result of heart disease. Genetics may make you more vulnerable to developing certain complications from certain factors, but you wouldn't develop vascular dementia without some underlying cause of which you would become aware beforehand.

But I don't think it matters. If you're anything like I was during peak caregiving periods, I expect your heart is going pit-a-pat almost all the time, you're probably holding your breath, your attention span seems to have turned negative and you have moments when you can't remember your own name, let alone anyone else's. And being in this state on its own will do you a power of no-good.

I hope your neurologist most certainly will take your concerns seriously, whether or not you turn out to be of any interest to that specialty, and will give you good advice.

Meanwhile, don't forget there are at least two halves to functional memory (there are a lot more aspects but I'm making a point here) - information in, and information out. If you're overwhelmed, it isn't necessarily that you've lost those memories - maybe at the time you weren't able to pay attention so you couldn't process the information, or maybe you can't focus or concentrate now and so you can't retrieve the information but it'll all come back to you later. Or both, of course.

The key thing is to seek advice on how to look after yourself, and well done to you for making a start. Please come back and let us know how it went.
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You know what they say about Alzheimer's, if you think you have it you don't. Stress/anxiety is the most likely cause of your problem followed by a sleep disorder. Could be a host of other things too.

Vascular dementia occurs most often in people with other cardiac risk factors like high blood pressure, diabetes, smoking and high cholesterol. Get all these checked out. Nobody knows for sure if AD has a genetic component. If you can't remember what the doctor said take notes next time.
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According to my mother’s cardiologist Mini strokes aren’t necessarily inherited. I just asked him it since her mom had them and my mother has vascular dementia.

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate though. If your neurologist appointment is fine, could you be depressed? One of my daughters’ has Major depression and basically recalls little to nothing about those time periods, can not concentrate ( ie minor car accidents) or remember pretty much anything at the time either
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HI, I had something similar happen to me when I was just in my 40's. I couldn't sleep, no short term memory, couldn't hold conversations because I couldn't finish sentences because I couldn't remember the beginning of the sentence. Then my Mother who had had it, suggested I get tested for sleep apnea. After a night of wearing wires at their sleep center, I was sent home and the next day, far sooner than is usual, I had 3 people trying to get a hold of me because my results were so concerning. My doc explained it to me; when you sleep and everything is fine, your oxygen level is in the 90's, starts killing brain cells in the 80'... mine was 59.. so sleeping was killing me.. first day on a cpack (spelt wrong) and I slept 14 hours and only my bladder woke me then. I was over weight so had bypass surgery with the cpack machine, my life is right again.
I know nothing about the development of dementia or anything like that, other than being the primary caregiver for my mother in law, who has it but I would hope that you have sleep apnea because there's a fix for it. And just to clarify, non overweight people can have it too.
Hope this helps, can't hurt to have it checked.
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Definitely see your neurologist next week, sounds exactly like when my mum had mini strokes. Don't freak out, mini strokes are way way better than normal stroke. It's been 8mths since then & she's back to her normal self. She couldn't remember things, got lost in mid sentence, couldn't remember a appointment I took her to, & was going through a lot of stress at the Time and I thought she was getting Alzheimer's.....I began to think the worst....but
Nope I was way off. It was mini strokes and they allow you to return to normal after 6mths. Might be a good idea if you take a aspirin once a day until you see neurologist. So glad you are seeing neurologist. Stress can also give similarities to what you described. Much love sent your way.
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There is a distinct possibility you have some hormonal or health related changes happening that are causing your focus issues.
There are natural and healthful ways to reverse it if that is the case. consult your physician, but do a little research before accepting a prescription.
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You need a complete medical evaluation to rule out early-onset dementia, an occult stroke, etc. No, it's not normal that at only 50 that you are having such memory issues. (I'm an RN.)
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Agree completely with Jean1808 but would also add epilepsy into the list of things to ask to have investigated.
You don't say if you are on any medication but some antidepressants can cause this effect so that may be one to consider.
Do get yourself given a full medical to rule things in or out, and best wishes for a good outcome xx
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Jannner Jul 2019
Depression itself causes that effect
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It is so awesome that you have the insight to reach out and ask the questions. I'm 55 so here are my thoughts:
1) could be early onset dementia
2) you are not too young to have had a stroke or other cardiovascular event including heart attack, and women's symptoms are different
2) could be related to menopause / hormonal changes
3) could be related to another health condition or medication so you need a complete physical with your primary care including blood work
4) could be stress

Please let us know what the diagnosis was. These things do feel scary when they start to happen.
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It's time for you to see a Nutritionist as well as a Neurologist.

Poor nutrition will lead to dementia.

You also need a good blood test to find any nutrient deficiencies. Many vitamin deficiencies can cause the problems you are experiencing.

Some are just part of aging, but it's good you are becoming aware now, before it's too late.
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You are caring for your father, you are caring for your mother..
How well are you caring for yourself?
Yes what you describe COULD be dementia of one type or another but..and I am no doctor (I like to play one in my mind and sometimes let my inner doctor escape on this site)
The fact that you KNOW that you took your husband to the hospital and he had a procedure...you KNOW you took your mother to the doctor... you KNOW that you are stopping in the middle of a sentence.
The concern would be if you did not recall you took your husband to the hospital, you did not know you took your mother to the doctor and you deny stopping in the middle of a sentence and all the other little things you forget.
You, like many on this forum are not just running your own life buy the lives of at least 2 other people. No one can keep that all straight in their head so your brain dumps out the unimportant stuff..you already took your husband to the hospital, why remember it further, you took your mom to the doctor, don't have to worry about that. And how many other thoughts are swirling around in your head while you are trying to carry on a conversation? I bet when one you think is important pops up you stop to analyze it to figure out if it is in fact important so you stop talking for a split second.
AD is both Hereditary / genetic and it can also just pop up. At 50 this would be a diagnosis of Early Onset.
Now to bring up a few points...and this is no matter what the Neurologist finds.
You should consult with an Elder Law attorney and get all YOUR paperwork in order Will, Trusts(if needed), POA's write down all the information that your family will need what your Wishes are. (There is a booklet called 5 Wishes and it outlines a lot of this) this will make it easy for your entire family should something happen to you. ..and anything can happen to anyone of us at any time...
And when was the last time you took some time for yourself? When was the last time you took a vacation away form caring for mom, dad? Might be time to plan a little get away. Caregiver Burnout is REAL.
Learn how to delegate some of the tasks you have been doing. If you have to hire someone to help you do some of the things you have been doing. And when I say hire..your parents pay for the help not you.
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It’s great passing 50, isn’t it?! :)

Yes, definitely have your doctors check it out. You mentioned your neurologist, but also ensure your primary care knows as well about your concerns. The root causes could be a number of different things and he/she would be best to make the right referrals to needed specialists after some initial tests.

You are very smart to start now... many of us will worry chronically about someone else's health but then place our heads in the sand when it comes to our own health. Best of luck!
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Sometimes I feel so exhausted that I can not recall all the chores I did that day...& I still say everyday that Im going to start getting organized, & going through all the clutter..papers, clothes not needed, etc. I just don’t seem to have enough hours in the day for everything I have to do. I’m caregiver for my 92 yo mother w dementia. Everything sometimes seems like a blur. I’m just on robot mode. But get yourself checked out to satisfy yourself.
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Sometimes lack of sleep, fatigue, exhaustion and stress - can cause what you explained. As others have said - obviously be medically checked out first. Don't assume anything. We take such good care of our charges, that we don't have time for ourselves.
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I have had the same problem and after being thoroughly checked out, turned out it is always due to stress. My brain simply shuts down when I am overwhelmed. 63 years old and I am just now learning to say 'no' and to take care of me, first.

But you need to be sure it's not TIAs or something serious. Mine was "stress". The hardest thing to deal with and nearly impossible to get people to understand.

Good Luck!!
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