My husband has been offered a side job out of state at a premium wage. I need space from him to focus. I want him to go. He says he cannot because I swore at the Alexa over her Sunday and she heard and I would need to pick up the slack. I can not. Today he texted me, she is on a blood pressure pill a half a day, the facility did not see the "1/2" only saw 2 and gave her 2 pills a day.
My therapist says I am up to 43% mobility in my arm so I can not do very much.
I can not take care of her and he cannot not go if I can't. What do you do?
Bandy, I have enough on my plate so please do not comment. I do not want to be upset by an anonymous person on the Internet.
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Look, getting an elderly, not so cooperative indigent patient decent care IS rocket science, especially if you don't have friends, family and colleagues who've been down the path before.
In my case, I have friends who are nurses, social workers and geriatrics M.D.s. We had good doctors, stellar discharge planners AND mom was private paying, so no Medicaid snafus. I have 2 cooperative loving brothers AND a brilliant MBA sister in law who managed my mom's money.
AND I still ended up in tears at least once a week, on the phone, at work, trying to manage mom's meds, PT, dental and audiology appointments and other 'little things'. No one was asking me to show up to give insulin shots or clean bedsores.
This is a tough system to navigate for anybody. Have some compassion. And please remember that the OP has not a shred of say-so in any of this. It's her DH who is the POA and he doesn't listen.
I think we forget how traumatizing this whole aging care can be.
When all is said and done, try to get away by yourself. Even if its a weekend in a hotel. Pamper yourself. Make decisions where u life is going to go. What u will put up with, and what you won't.
I hope some of us have helped you. Take a break from us if you need to. But please update us on how your doing. We love updates.