I text the grandchildren and daughther-in-law the name address all information where their Grandmother is. Then I said if you want anything out the house let me know I have thirty days to clean out the apartment. The granddaughter in ohio response I want all her stuff I said okay let me know when you can come get it. The other grandson who live in jersey city called my phone and talk so nasty , and the text he send im so upset because I have been doing for my aunt for over three years running back and forth making sure she is being taking care of .she had a 24hr live in aid up until yesterday. Everyone else including my aunts daughter in law comments on a job well done. It just make me so upset for someone to act like I did something wrong. Help in jersey.
Tell her she has 1 week to come and get it all or it gets cleaned out by a volunteer agency and donated.
Or better yet...have a big estate sale...that could help in off-setting the costs you've spent in caring for her.
The only person you are responsible to...is your aunt.
When anyone I contact is nasty to me...communication is cut. They can call or text all they want but I'm done on my end.
I don't care what anyone interprets my silence as being.
I report to God...not to people.
I know what it is though to have done your best at a very, very difficult thing, and then get kicked in the teeth for it...you were expecting and deserving a thank you so the defenses were down.
I would take a little time to calm down, and then if nothing else came to mind, find someone in the family who could relay your point of view to him, that you were very hurt and could not believe that you were accused of wrongdoing. Maybe even coordinate a couple of people to gang up on him :-). If your aunt's needs exceeded what a 24 hour live in caregiver could do, then this was the right move and the only move. You feel bad enough about having to do that in any event...maybe a little education could be provided, but you probably should not provide it yourself, as having been cursed at and threatened means you don't need to speak with him until an apology is made. People like this could interpret your silence as guilt and he could otherwise go on smugly believing what he said was fair and accurate.
If the gal calls back and gives you a hard time, tell her you've left the keys with the landlord and book. If your name's not on the lease? It's not your responsibility to empty anything.