My mom is getting another UTI and is fantasizing she can walk, and will be hallucinating people in her room by tonight. I have the flu and hurt all over, especially serious for me because I have an immune disorder. I cannot keep her safe, clean and fed for now. I need to refuse to take her home -- any suggestions on the practical side of that? It has worked well in the past, the hospital definitely got the situation... Guess I'm feeling guilt also. I'm sitting here with this sick woman who's super cheerful and thinks she can walk and run!!! I'm going a bit crazy too...
Out of line.
I talked to Area Council on Aging, still trying to find out my rights. They were encouraging and are calling Adult Protective Services for me to see what are my real options and rights. YAAY!
Hospital did not admit mom and she spent the night in the ER.
I left a message with nurse at her PCP to see if I can get antibiotics that way. May not be able to, as he is a new doc for her. Will see.
I don't want to take her home as she is still sick and manic -- I can tell from her phone messages. But hospital thinks she is just very old.... And -- it's easy for me to forget-- I AM STILL SICK.
Left messages with respite care facilities but they didn't call back yet.
Thank you again for your caring and support! The system might be insane at times but at least we have each other! 🕊💕
The problem is, my mom's UTI is not showing up on their tests and they don't realize/ believe she's not always manic and demented like this so they keep insisting she's well. Hopefully overnight, she's started to hear the annoying music and see the invisible people, as always. And hopefully the hospital will notice! We will see...
Going to sleep and rest as much as I can, as I'm very unwell. Might call Area Council on Aging to see if they can help, and might call some of the respite care places the Alz Assoc found me to see if I can get her in there for a week or two -- I'm praying I don't have to take her home today while she's still manic. THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT! I could not have stood up to the hospital's pressure and bullying without support.
It feels uncomfortable to avoid talking to the hospital to try to get my mom settled, and I'm sure it's uncomfortable for my mom also... But I made it clear to EMT and nurse at ER that I would not accept her home; in both cases their response was, "You have to." Well I guess we're at a stand off... This is a very small town; they're not going to leave a 96 year old who can't walk out on the curb. I'm going to sleep now and sleep as long as I possibly can here in the peace and quiet.
Thank you again for all your support and caring! 🕊💕☃️☃️
Good Luck - hope you feel better soon
Just understood all of it - so sorry. Get them to keep her. You are obviously not able at the moment. It would be SAFER for her to be admitted.