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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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Please, I’m with my 87 year old mum she has cancer and is hours away from death I’m so scared she’s not eating or drinking and I’m in the care home with her I feel so scared.
Mikki, you brought back memories when my mom was dying, to hear her struggle to breathe. I know the panic, the fear you must be going through. I'm so sorry! I soooo hope you have someone once in a while - to be there with you. {{HUGS}} for strength and courage.
Mikki spend the time she has left brushing her hair, giving her hands a rub, and speak to her and let her know it’s ok to go. These are moments you will never forget. We’ll all be thinking of you today.
It is typical in the last days and hours in our loved ones' lives for them to quit eating and drinking. Hopefully she is not in any pain. Usually if they are in pain, Hospice with give them medication to keep them comfortable. Both my mother in law and mother were given Oxycontin for the pain, but that normally will put them into a comatose state and they will no longer be able to talk or correspond with others. This begins the death process. She will be able to hear you, so continue to talk and tell her things. God Bless you on this journey ♥
I can't say more than look to Jesus. Ice cream, can you give her ice cream. Read scripture to her would benefit you both, and sing hymns to her. My heart goes out to you, will pray for you both, you are not alone in this season of life. Look to Jesus the author and finisher of our life.
Mikki, I am so sorry you are going through this alone. It would be a very scary time. Jesus said he would never leave us or forsake us. If your LO knows Jesus, she will pass from death unto life-everlasting life in heaven. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Pray for your Mom and for His help through this. He will make a way where there seems to be no way. I’m praying for both of you. You are not alone. We care about you.
Do you have Hospice for her? Call the hospice line and talk to them.
Is there a friend or relative who could sit watch with you?
When my mom was dying, I used my phone to play music she loved and taught me to love, opera, musicals we'd seen together, American Songbook. It brought me comfort to "do" something, you know? It's such a helpless feeling, isn't it? (((((((Hugs)))))))). We're here with you!
My heart goes out to you both. She may not remember how to eat. If she is drinking then try a liquid meal or even a shake. How about a little chocolate? What was her favourite food? Give her a little treat. Play music she loves. Sing with her. If she is comfortable and happy - you can ask for no more that than. your best is good enough. :) Hugs to you both
John Michael Talbot – Be Not Afraid Lyrics
You shall cross the barren desert, but you shall not die of thirst. You shall wander far in safety though you do not know the way. You shall speak your words in foreign lands and all will understand. You shall see the face of God and live.
Be not afraid. I go before you always. Come follow me, and I will give you rest.
If you pass through raging waters in the sea, you shall not drown. If you walk amid the burning flames, you shall not be harmed. If you stand before the pow'r of hell and death is at your side, know that I am with you through it all.
Blessed are your poor, for the kingdom shall be theirs. Blest are you that weep and mourn, for one day you shall laugh. And if wicked men insult and hate you all because of me, blessed, blessed are you!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers. With hugs.
How are you doing - have you had any rest ?
One of my favorite hymns
and thank you smeshque
We’ll all be thinking of you today.
Ice cream, can you give her ice cream. Read scripture to her would benefit you both, and sing hymns to her.
My heart goes out to you, will pray for you both, you are not alone in this season of life. Look to Jesus the author and finisher of our life.
Is there a friend or relative who could sit watch with you?
When my mom was dying, I used my phone to play music she loved and taught me to love, opera, musicals we'd seen together, American Songbook. It brought me comfort to "do" something, you know? It's such a helpless feeling, isn't it? (((((((Hugs)))))))). We're here with you!
Hugs to you both
John Michael Talbot – Be Not Afraid Lyrics
You shall cross the barren desert, but you shall not die of thirst.
You shall wander far in safety though you do not know the way.
You shall speak your words in foreign lands and all will understand.
You shall see the face of God and live.
Be not afraid.
I go before you always.
Come follow me, and
I will give you rest.
If you pass through raging waters in the sea, you shall not drown.
If you walk amid the burning flames, you shall not be harmed.
If you stand before the pow'r of hell and death is at your side, know that
I am with you through it all.
Blessed are your poor, for the kingdom shall be theirs.
Blest are you that weep and mourn, for one day you shall laugh.
And if wicked men insult and hate you all because of me, blessed, blessed are you!