When my husband was alive my son did not come around due to my husband's dementia. We went to all of my grandson's baseball games and I felt like an outsider because my son and his wife would not talk with us except for the basic hi how are you. My son lives 2 hrs away and now that my husband is gone my son wants me to stay at his house instead of going to a hotel. I don't know how to deal with this. My son & DIL have what they call family vacations/camping trips with her family. The other day my son mentioned to me my grandson went to his other grandparents house to spend the night because he wanted to spend time with his last living grandpa. This hurt me so bad because when they are in town they never stopped by to see my husband. I don't know what to do any advise would help. Thanks.