She is now in nursing home a year now. Now my significant other is very ill with liver disease. Too much to bear. I have been off of work on disability pay for 2 years now as it was impossible to take care of mom and my job is very demanding. Have suffered financially with no help from siblings. They both live out-of-state and understand them not being able to help day to day but I pleaded with them to just give me a weeks vacation once a year since my caregiving began. They would not even answer my texts. It is the abandonment that hurts sooo much. I almost lost my house but have rented out for the time being as I am caregiving my significant other now. I do not want to sound selfish but my well is totally empty so to speak. I have lost myself. Now my disability thru work, which has been a blessing, still hard though as it is 50% of my pay is ending and they are helping me apply for social security disability which looks like it will be a positive outcome. I feel like such a loser and more depressed going this route. I am a people person and miss social contact so much but feel I have so much healing to do. My dr just prescribes medication and is not interested in talking. I pray that God takes me. Emotional pain too much to bear. And now my significant other is also very depressed. Any validation of my feelings and/or advice would be much appreciated. Sincerely, Nancy
I don't have siblings or anyone that COULD help me, so I guess it infuriates me even more that your siblings won't even respond to your pleas for help. I can't imagine speaking to them anymore. That kind of abandonment would just be too much for me.
Hugs and prayers-
infolongtermcare.org/senior-caregiver-support/elderly-caregiver-support-organization/
It contains the contact details of the organization as well so you can reach out to them. Good luck and God bless you...
*Yes, there is medical as well as theological truth in Benjamin Franklin's assertion that "Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy." My dad would be proud of me for remembering that.
(pun intended)
Please cut a part of your week, or of your day and spend it in some social activity. A support group, a cooking lesson at whole foods, book club, lunch with friends.
You need to charge up.
Best of luck.
L
We know what it feels like.
You should be commended and we all empathize with you on this site.
I think it's time for a new doctor that "does" like to 'talk'.
I would find someone to listen to me and UNDERSTAND.... not someone who spends 2 min with each patient and really isn't interested in their personal struggle; because I find that a well paid doctor is very important. If you don't want to switch then you make him/her listen. You tell it like it is. You say, listen, I need you to hear me.
We are here for you unconditionally.
I have the feeling you need to find something that will help you peer out from under the cloud that has settled on your life. After depression sets in, though, you need some help in getting started. Look around to see if you can find some psychiatric help that you can afford. There is a lot of hope out there, but we have to figure out a way to get to it.