When we don’t ask questions but assume it’s bad for everyone. Projecting ourselves is common. It bothers us because we don’t like it.
the mother probably picks up on a daughters
need to find fault with her and knows it’s better not to ask. When someone has a vested interest in not getting along but they are unaware of it. Therapy is a good idea.
no one’s perfect. Right?
That's the best that I can try to understand your comments - if in fact, that's what you meant. Care to clarify what you actually meant to express?
I really hope that I'm NOT correct in what you were trying to say!!
Not every daughter "needs" to find fault with their Mother, but in close relationships I think it just seems that way when we're older and have more perspective and experience. The better you know someone, the more acquainted with their flaws you become.
Sometimes people seem to have a vested interest in not getting along, and sometimes it is subconscious, and a result of dysfunctionality, mental illness, history of abuse, etc.
Therapy is only as good as the therapist plus the willingness of the client to take long, hard looks into themselves, their motivations, choices and goals. I think a wise therapist is an incredibly valuable resource.