Her vision is very poor, as is her speech and while not bedridden, needs help to get around in a wheelchair. She doesn't really know me, our kids, or even her siblings - largely unaware of her surroundings. My question: What, if anything, should I say to her prior to the move to the nursing home? I seriousoly doubt she will even be aware that she has moved to a new "home". (she didn't even realize when we moved her from our bed to a hospital bed about a week ago, nor when she stopped using stairs.)
Thanks
I am sure that you want everything to go as smoothly as possible.
You know that you are showing her the ultimate form of love by allowing her to be cared for by experienced professionals.
Your wise actions already convey your story and words aren’t always necessary. I think a simple, “I love you.” would be enough to say.
Wishing you peace as you take this next step in your caregiving journey.
I hope she transitions well.
This is a tough one; it sounds like your wife's comprehension of what is going on is quite impaired.
How will she be transported to the facility? Is she used to be driven places, or will that be an anxiety provoking thing?
I would consult with her doctor about giving a mild sedative or anti-anxiety med before this move.
https://www.seniorlink.com/blog/50-tips-on-transitioning-a-loved-one-to-memory-dementia-or-alzheimers-careyour-blog-post-title-here
You've likely already dropped your wife off, but perhaps some of these tips will still be useful as you face the upcoming questions or trials that often accompany such a move.
Wishing you both the best of luck acclimating.
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