My dad had a stroke and was also diagnosed with Dementia , effecting his memory and bodily functions . He has a female friend who visits at times but has been showing inappropriate behavior , such as kissing him on the lips , rubbing his leg near the groin and sitting on his lap . She likes to just stop by unannounced but if she does call first usually late by hours , she stays to long , last visit 4hr ...my dad was tired and became agitated. I have asked her not to do this to please keep her visits short and just l act like a friend but she continues. So i feel this does him harm by leading him on and makes him emotionally difficult to handle , any suggestions how to approach her again ? Or am i being over protective?
In some places, it's criminal to take advantage of a person with intellectual disabilities. Maybe, she doesn't get it. Could the facility advise her of their policies on conduct? I'd make sure she is not able to leave with your dad. I'd put that in writing to the facility.
Has the facility indicated what their position would be if you ask that she not be allowed to see your dad? I would be concerned that she would try to get him to sign something that he doesn't understand. Does he have assets that she is aware of? Maybe, I'm paranoid, but I would stay on top of this and try to nip it in the bud. If she is truly a good person who wants to provide company and fun, that's fine, but it sounds like she's not aware of his condition OR she is and is not respecting it.