This may have been answered before but I didn’t pay attention because I never dreamed it would apply to us. My very elderly father has been in a nursing home for almost 4 months. Last week out of the blue he asked the nurse to touch her boobs. I was shocked but not as today when he exposed himself in the dining room. This is absolutely not my father who would never ever talk about sex let alone do anything! Now what? I asked for a psychologist to assist but no help since my request. An advise would be appreciated.
It is the dementia / changes in his brain.
How to proceed:
* Ask to speak to the nursing home administrator.
* Ask how they handle these situations.
Be assured, this is normal behavior for some people afflicted with dementia. You are not alone, nor is your dad. The nursing home will have procedures in place - to discuss with you.
Gena
Sometimes, it seems as though a person reverses back in time in thought. Perhaps at those moments he was thinking as a young man and you know how young men's thinking can be.
See how the nursing home responds, like the other answers, they are used to
the different behaviors of residents.
I was bathing my mother once, she said "my mother said you are not to bathe me". Okay... She was not my mother at that point in time but was a young girl.
We finished and she was back to being my mother.
One of the many behaviors we caregivers see or are told about.
If this happens more, talk to his doctor or the nurse about how to handle this. It may come up at his care conference or you could bring it up.
I would not bring it up to him, however.
If the facility isn't concerned about his behavior, I would let that dog lay. They will do something when they see it as a problem, I guarantee you.
As for you, just be really, really nice and kind and thankful to the staff. They are fine with difficult residents, but appreciative families make it all easier!