what kind of lawyer or representative is needed to handle the following situation? (elder law attorney/mediator?).....both parents are incapacitated, their property out of the country may be sold soon and that money must be used for their healthcare, siblings are not getting along at this point (unfortunately, a quite disturbing situation), i have DPOA (have not used it) but some siblings don't agree to it and have threatened to oppose it in court (has not happened yet), one sibling who is being manipulated by another sibling will most likely try to have the $ wired into their account and let's just say, they've demonstrated enough evil ways that they cannot be trusted since to them it's all about control & ego....of course, if you ask them, they would say that i can't be trusted (although they would not have an example to provide) so the bottom line is that no one trusts each other at this point & aside from ending up in a court battle, what independent person can resolve this & from my perspective ensure that the $ is being used for my parents well-being only, does having an independent person mean that we (as their children) no longer have a say in the matter??
One possible outcome is to get your parents declared incompetent, and ask the court to appoint a guardian. As I understand it, that is complicated and expensive, as the guardian must be paid for his/her services.
Maybe the attorney can give you an idea of how much that would cost. If the siblings realize that their arguing is costing the estate $10,000 to $20,000 a year, reason might prevail. I just made up those numbers, but don't lawyers get paid $100 to $500 an hour?
SO Sorry for your trouble!