I suspect my father's wife is being verbally abusive, if not somewhat physically abusive to him also. The nurse at the retirement apartment where they live suggested installing a hidden camera, I had the same advice from my personal counselor. I am his DPOA, his ALZ is moderate stage. In talking with my husband we are in agreement that it probably should be done, but are concerned about how to do it without causing her to become more angry. She contends that she can care for him by herself, but the last two times I have been with him in the past two weeks, his hair wasn't combed (also BAD haircut, hadn't trimmed his eyebrows,ear hair or nose hair) which is highly unusual for him as he has always been immaculately groomed. She also never lets him go anywhere with me alone, always insists on coming along. This is a short term marriage-4 years.
It's amazing how much authority you have with the DPOA. I have the DPOA that includes finances and a separate medical POA. I have visited many Senior Care Facilities and that is the first thing they ask for and I always have it with me. They will not meet with you without it. If you and your husband are attending support groups then you know that the stage your father is at is a pretty serious stage for both of them to be dealing with. You should get help ASAP!!
Hope all the information you've been given helps you.
It's amazing how much authority you have with the DPOA. I have the DPOA that includes finances and a separate medical POA. I have visited many Senior Care Facilities and that is the first thing they ask for and I always have it with me. They will not meet with you without it. If you and your husband are attending support groups then you know that the stage your father is at is a pretty serious stage for both of them to be dealing with. You should get help ASAP!!
Hope all the information you've been given helps you.