My mom has lived with me for 16 years now. She is 76, has dementia, hearing loss and vision problems. She is usually pretty angry and blames me for stealing her things and mistreating her. I am 42 with adult children and a husband. We all care for her and take excellent care of her but I'm tired :( My heart breaks every time she accuses me of these things. Now she has taken to leaving the house and saying that she is walking to the store. When I try to stop her she becomes combative and angry. I am a teacher and I need to return to work now but I can't afford assisted living or in home help. Is 76 too young for a nursing home?
Take care of yourself.
As has been mentioned, get all your legal ducks in a row if they are not there already. If you have any questions or need help please invest in a good certitied elder care attorney; they are worth the money.
Placement anywhere is difficult in the midst of the raging pandemic. If your mother is not able to private pay for placement, she will need to have Medicaid which you can apply for. Be aware that Medicaid beds in AL MC are few and far between and are often given to those residents who have been private pay for years. Many NHs have secured MC units but most will require a legitimate payment source prior to admission so that is why you really want to get the Medicaid application going as soon as possible. I suggest you contact your state or country Office on Aging for more detailed information. The social workers there will probably know which NH are accepting and will guide you through the Medicaid process. Good Luck