We live alone. My daughter does a great deal for me/us - but's it's only been in the last 4 months that she's become more involved - attending critical doctors appointments with me. Picking up an occasional prescription or prepping a "pop in the oven meal" - she has watched or assisted a couple of times with "Personal" duties for her mother, but they are rare - it worries her that I don't consider assisted living or even a nursing home for my wife - also suggesting in home health for times I need then ( when needs arise at 3 A.M. , or 6 A.M. or any random hour - how do I choose ? I never know when those most needed hours are! A Nurse is not possible because of $$ . A CNA is a glorified sitter (no offense to those who give 100% to their work) I haven't found a CNA that seems to care to be a self starter! Prefer to sit, listen, do what's told and text! Even if my daughter spent 1 whole hour out of every day - how can I convince her that she can't really understand what I'm up against - and that the solutions she offers I've tried and they haven't worked!