A friend of mine's mother has terrible anxiety and she can seldom leave or go away for any type of respite due to her mother's terrible anxiety. Her mother worries and ask repeated; every 15 or so minutes when is "she coming home" even after you have explained to her the whereabouts and times. She wrings her hands and frets and picks up the phone to call her daughter's cell to find her. It's frustrating for the daughter and stresses her until she is a mess herself.
What are some medications or options and resources I can suggest? Taking her to an adult day care is one, but her mom has such high anxiety I think the Care center may not take her.
Or take the mom out for her own adventure while daughter is gone. If she's not ambulatory, get a transport or companion chair and take her to the mall to window shop and people watch. Or take her to a store or to the library or to a playground to watch kids play if the weather is nice. Or for a walk along a nature path or to a flower garden. I've done all of those things with my mom in a transport chair.
Or get the mom to a nearby Senior Center for some activities of her own. That way, she can have something to tell her daughter about her big day out.
Also she may have to try several medications before finding the best one that works for her Mom..
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Does the mother have a caregiver in your friend's absence? I was thinking it may be something she wants to look into. If the mother had someone with her that she felt secure with, then she may not feel compelled to call her daughter so much.