I help care for a friend's grandma who has memory issues, her doctor wants a neurologist to examine her grandma. my friend has canceled the appointment's (more then twice) because she wants the will changed before her grandma is possible diagnosed with dementia or alzheimer's. what i'd like to know is when do they send up a red flag for cancelling to many appointments and can i get into trouble for not reporting her?
What I would suggest doing is seeing if you can secretly get this grandma scheduled for an appointment while this friend is working. That way only you and the neurologist know. You have an advantage since you're helping to care for this elder. If you can get her into an appointment, you can get her diagnosis and everything can come out in the wash later if you can get the neurologist and other proper channels in your corner.
But what is the delay? She cancelled an appointment ... why didn't she go ahead and change the will? Is your friend trying to get her grandma to change the will and grandma doesn't want to?
It is illegal to coerce someone into changing a will.
You think your friend should be reported for repeatedly cancelling appointments because the friend is afraid that if her grandma is diagnosed with dementia she won't be able to change her will. Is that it?
If you don't report her who's going to get you into trouble?
If you feel that your friend is manipulating her grandmother and compromising her health in the process you can contact an agency anonymously.