He was a mean bully when I was growing up. He hasn't changed at all still mean and very much a bully. He is in really good health. How can I get him out of my home. I cannot continue to live like this. I too am a senior. I don't want to spend my life with him yelling and threatening me and cleaning up after him. While he is older than me obviously I feel as though he is abusing me verbally.
I thought, too; but our attorney says otherwise.
Farm is going into Mom's name only, and will not be subject to Medicaid repayment for Dad's care. I suppose if she someday requires Medicaid, it might be another story.
There are asset limits that the "community spouse" can keep and still qualify for Medicaid for the spouse in the NH. In Indiana, it's $50,000. Money in excess of that is going into an annuity that is obligated back to the State for his care if she dies before it's all paid back to her--in 3 months.
The services of an Elder Law attorney do not come cheap, but the specialized knowledge is worth the cost.
Suddenly aster her death I was treated like dirt a parasite etc which could not be further from the truth.
I had to get an attorney and fight my sister who never did a thing and even failed to invite our Grandmother to her wedding and a daughter of mine in LA who was always begging her great Grandmother for a new disaster. I mediation they offered my $100k out of $2.3 million.
The lawyers ended up with $700k of the $2.3 million and I am now facing suing her attorney for malpractice hiding a B trust disenfranchising B trust beneficiaries!
Her tax man became her POA then trustee which I learned later is a huge conflict but nobody cared as far as judge etc!
As you can imagine her trustee became the cliche worst nightmare imaginable , keping a $64k car against her instructions for 2 yrs put 7 000 miles on it causing $6k damages also nobody cared, in fact he tried to hide $1 million I knew existed and only after I provided statements I saved I was able to prove it otherwise the trustee was going to keep $1 million cash!
Plus I learned he was fined $19k bt FINRA in 2006 for failing to use due diligence a fact he hid from my Grandmother too.
Trusts and probate are a ticket to steal with little to no repercussions! NEVER use a trust, there is 0 oversight and was has oversight is ignored! I regret ruining my life to provide exemplary care for my Grandmother I was an EMT years back and truly treated her as royalty . Care givers are looked at like losers and parasites!.
I had a $24 hour job in HVAC at the time I quit and it was the worst decision I ever made.