The court appointed a guardian for my husband after I and his daughter applied to be his guardian. We agreed to this to end the litigation. I feel that I should have been appointed automatically because his POA stated that he wanted me to be his guardian if needed. He also testified in court that he wanted me. My attorney and the magistrate said it would end up like this because his daughter and I do not get along. I wonder if I gave up too soon, and am wondering if I did the right thing by letting a guardian have complete control of my husband, even health care decisions. He is in assisted living and I feel left out of any decisions made regarding my husband. There were 2 medical mistakes made where they did not ask the guardian or me about permission to perform these procedures. The guardian does not want to be involved and I do not know what my position is as his wife. Any suggestions?
You need to be communicating! You need to be developing some more collaborative relationships -- now with the guardian if possible, and with the assisted living staff -- so that you can contribute in a positive way to your husband's care.