Mom does not want to leave her home. She is 89 and is dependent on my sister and I to provide company, shopping, Dr. visits, and overall entertainment. She lives in a cute 1200 sq. ft. house which would easily accommodate another person. We would love to find a 60-70 year old lady who would be interested in a free room in exchange for very basic services. Ideally, this person would need to have a car and be willing to pitch in with transportation for mom when we are not available. Mostly though we need a person to keep her company. So my question is how do we find such a person? I don't feel comfortable advertising for a companion. I would rather have a recommendation from a reliable source.
A live in caregiver in my area would cost approximately $12,000.00 a month. Room and board in my opinion is not sufficient hardly a fair trade. In addition a 60 or 70 year old woman if she doesn't have health issues will likely develop them in the future especially if she is having to help Mom with transfers, dressing and the like. The caregiver/roommate's back would be a huge concern. Finding someone reputable without using an agency is another. I imagine you could check churches in the area to try to find a person to your Mom's liking.
Is there a senior center Mom could go to? Maybe your Mom could strike up friendships where someone to help and live in might be found. You and your sister should however be at the doctor visits. Having someone else take on that responsibility is not fair to Mom or the caregiver.
So, bite the bullet and get your Mom innto an assisted living facility. She will make many friends have activities each day, fed and have a staff to watch over her.