Or, can APS help me? She has lost the ability to care for herself, she falls multiple times a day, and refuses help or to move. My mom takes a lot of narcotics and muscle relaxants for chronic pain, won't give any of it up, and my siblings and I don't know what to do. We are looking for solutions. Any help will be greatly appreciated.
It is unlikely, but some documents require a determination of incapacity before an agent can act.
Savinggranny, offered great advice in terms of reviewing your mother's documents and enlisting professional support as opposed to traveling the legal route first.
You might also consider a geriatric psychologist or care manager to create a relationship with your mother and help her make appropriate decisions.
Contacting APS should be your last resort.