Mom has dementia and lives with us and dad does too. Mom and dad have lived with us for about 2 yrs they do help pay the bills. They have Doubled since they moved in. I'm not rich or they would pay nothing. The question is if dad does before mom and we have to put mom in a care unit are they going to come after us for the money that was to help with bills. My dad is fine nothing wrong with him he is in his 80s But mom is not late stages dementia I have to help her with every thing and so does dad I am going to marry my other half in iowa and it still is not legal in Nebraska for gay marriages.
Take care,
Carol
Yes, there are homes that do a better job than others....partly due to wage structure & partly due to staffing levels. It's a fact of life, places that pay better attract more experienced, more motivated staff. We like to see nurses as selfless individuals who care for everyone...and, by in large, we are...but the truth is, everyone needs to earn enough to survive, so wages do matter. Staffing levels pretty much go in the same category. Being a nurse...and especially being a CNA...is an incredibly physical job. Lifting & turning a full-grown adult who, often, can't help in any way or, worse yet, fights you the whole time, isn't easy...and we often have to do this on our own. Th is is one reason why there's not a nurse alive that doesn't have a bad back! Homes with low staffing levels will see high turn-over because no one wants to risk injurying the people they care for...or themselves. A severe injury can end a career & that nurse's earning capability so, yeah, she's gonna go where the staffing levels provide sufficient help.
The last year that I worked in a nursing home I worked 11-7 on an Alzheimer's unit & it was just me & ONE aide to deal with 36 wandering, confused & combative residents. That's an 18 resident to 1 caregiver ratio! So, yeah, I find your idiotic comment to be incredibly insulting.
CS can get somewhat complex as their financials has a fixed date (aka "Snapshot" date) that everything is set from, in a way it is less flexible for couples to do after application Medicaid planning even though there is a community spouse situation. Really you need good legal & I'd suggest you get one who is NAELA certified.
It's not fair necessarily, but it'd the way it is. Too bad you didn't take Igloo's excellent advice months ago. An Elder Law attorney. And the only thing worse than your not having DONE that is to let ONE MORE DAY GO BY without an appointment. Don't think you can afford it? Well...that advise your parents CAN pay for. Call asap.
Don't fall for the appointment trick - its easy to clean up once in a while it is keeping it fantastic ALL the time that counts. if you ring and they want 3 days notice then alarm bells are already ringing. If you say I want to come round in 30 minutes and they say can you make that an hour because we need to focus on teas/drug rounds then even better.
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