My 81 year old mother is in skilled nursing home in NY and her spouse is still in Florida, in a home owned jointly. In the event that she spends down all her own assets in NY facility, is she eligible for Medicaid even though her husband, my step father, has his own assets?
As far as I know, his assets are her assets in Medicaid's eyes. Applying for Medicaid can be very straight-forward for a single person with low income and minimal assets. It gets more complicated very quickly when there is a spouse, and I imagine a spouse in a different state sets a new level of complexity. Don't try to go this yourself. See an Elder Law attorney.