My mother fell in the nursing home and hit her head on the toilet . She told me she had been almost falling a lot lately. I told the nursing staff. A few days later the head nurse asked me on my way into her room to look at her and see if she was acting strangely. I did and she was her head was leaned back (she was in her wheelchair) and sideways she was not answering me when I spoke to her. I went back to the nurses station and told them I thought my mom was having a stroke ( she is under hospice care) they came and tested her blood sugar which was normal her BP which was a little high and she had a low grade fever. They check her urine and before the results came back they started her on an antibiotic. My mom the next day was better and talking but didn't seem to be able to follow directions. Later that night they called me back to the nursing home saying they thought she had a stroke, when I got there her head was sideways on the pillow her tongue was sideways in her mouth she could not speak nor swallow and again running a fever. They gave her a suspository for her fever and a dose of morphine (which she gets for heart pain) next day she was talking again but not the same. Now I realize that she is under comfort care and really what can they do but I believe she had a stroke the day she fell and I believe the UTI came from her brain and bladder not communicating to void. They only way they could get pee out of her yesterday was to get her to cough while on the bedpan with that method they got 500cc out. She had told them moments before she did not have to go. I just would like some opinions on this. I do not want any extreme measures be taken but I would like output from you guys
I asked the initial question because I want to share with you that I believe when our soul, essence, inner being, whatever one calls it leaves the physical body behind and returns strictly to the non physical realm, that energy is now all knowing on a universal level about laws, kindness, love, etc. and that there are no ugly departed souls.
I just asked my higher power to deal with my mom as if she were someone else (as she mostly wasn't herself anymore anyway), not be drawn to her level and know that open, healthy communication would be possible after she passed to the non-physical.
I don't know if it will help you but that's my take...many hugs!
CarolLynn, you are a wise and thoughtful woman. I found your explanation of your beliefs about passing into the afterlife very helpful and inspiring