My mom was diagnosed with dementia a few months ago. All of a sudden she believes my dad is having an affair. Everything she doesn't remember or recognize in the home is now attributed to the 'other woman.' There is no talking her down as she doesn't believe anything anyone tells her outside of her own delusions. We have tried everything - redirecting her, changing the subject, talking about it, not talking about it, medications, etc. Nothing has worked. When she's in the middle of an episode, she will yell at him, follow him around the house, wake him from a dead sleep, etc. It's becoming more frequent and her level of anger is increasing as well. My dad is her primary caregiver and it's just not working. I don't know what to do. Has anyone dealt with this and had something actually work? I thought the medication would help but it's not made a bit of difference. The rate at which this is increased is rather alarming too. It's very frustrating that there aren't any solutions right now. I'm worried she'll start to become violent as her rage increases. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know.
She's in a conflict mode right now, believe it or not it wont last. As her condition worsens she will become less "assertive" and more dependent. You should work on finding a long term memory care center for her. Get some ideas going now. Your Dad is bearing the biggest brunt of this. His health is of greatest concern. Triage! Save what you can and let go of what cant be saved. PS: I don't comment on other posts. I recommend you not pay attention to the back and forth of some of the comments out there either. Find a solution that fits your situation-because they are all different. Good Luck and hang in there!!