My Mom has been in the nursing home since Feb. She is wheelchair bound and cannot stand up by herself. She, also, suffers from dementia, incontinence and osteoporosis. It, now takes 2 people to stand her up, but, she thinks she is fine, so she begs me to take her home, which I can't do. It breaks my heart that I can't let her go home. My Dad is at home, but, he also, suffers from dementia and he can no longer take care of her. What can I say to her that will help.
you might have to blameshift . tell her doc will not release her to go home , her health is being monitored and med adjustment being made etc . most of all listen to her . no one else IS ..
im the only sob listening to my aunt and the sight of me each day is a relief to her. everybody wants to be heard .
i know you cant believe everything a dementia patient says but she told me she was parked in front of the nurse station folding towels all day . they brought her more towels and told her they couldnt take her to pee at the moment but someone would be around shortly . of course , she could always sit and pee in her adult diaper . i believe her story . the staff does a pretty good job but 3 of em put together wouldnt break 100 on an iq test ..
just sayin it like i see it .
Other than white lies to her, you will just have to either keep up the white lies or tell her the truth whether she accepts or not. If you aren't up to it, take a break from the visiting and enlist sibs or friends to maybe visit while you take a break now and again.
You can tell your mom that she needs more therapy before she can go home or that they want to get her back on her feet before she can leave. These are little white lies that we tell our loved ones to protect them and give us some peace as well.