Hi All,
My mom is currently living at her townhome with Visiting Angels coming in for four hours every day. I go by on Saturdays to see her and make sure she has food, clean, etc. She is able to dress herself and toilet without issues. She has dementia and cannot remember things except things that happen in the past. Before Covid-19 we were looking at Assisted Living places, we had looked at couple of places and then Covid started and facilities were locked down. I put the move on hold for now. My mom watches a lot of TV about the virus and seems to think that she gets it every day. Although the Visiting Angels resource will take her temperature and check her symptoms and all is fine. She seems to be very angry at me that I am not there with her every day (she thinks of me as a small child). I have a full time job and a family and I am feeling very torn about leaving her in her house with all that is going on. We have a strained relationship and I feel if I bring her into my home, that we will just argue and our relationship will be worse. I cannot get her into an Assisted Living place at this time as they are not accepting new people. I don't know what to do. Do I bring her here and suffer through it until facilities open back up? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!
Food deliveries and storage, household cleaning and health care support are good enough reasons if she's unable to manage these unassisted or without prompting. But that's what the Visiting Angels are for. You shouldn't be going at all.
Remember: this is not forever. It is an incredibly difficult time, it is bound to be a challenge explaining to your mother why you are staying away, but she will come to no lasting harm and it is the right thing to do. For HER welfare.
Keep in touch with the facility of your choice and let them know as soon as they have an opening, your mother will be moving there. She may need more than just assisted living if she has memory issues. My mother was immediately transferred to memory care after dad passes away in their AL apartment. Without him there, she was physically able but her memory rendered her non-functional without full time supervision.
I suspect you would need an in-home internet connection with the echos, is that correct?
I realize that we r in a Pandemic but like everything else, the news has to overdue it.