Mom has started adult day care recently, and likes it, but when at home has no initiative to do anything. She used to read, play cards, etc. I don't know if its because she is engaged outside the house, and now doesn't knoww how to start things, or the dementia has progressed to another level. Thoughts? She is also engaged if we go out somewhere. Today, though, for instance when I went to visit (she lives alone but close by) she wss just sitting in a chair and when I went back in the afternoon, she was in bed,came downstairs briefly, then said shhe was going back to bed (it was 5pm). She seems to sleep 12 hours and is still sometimes tired at home.
Mom use to enjoy cooking but she was doing less and less meals from scratch, and not keeping up with the cleaning mainly because she couldn't see the marks on the walls, bathrooms that needed cleaning, etc.
If my Dad and I were out on an appointment or shopping, we would find Mom sitting in a chair in the family room, no light was on, nor was the TV. It was like when we left she sat there and didn't move until we came home. I didn't know it back then, but now I think she was starting to be a fall risk, and she and Dad kept it to themselves.
Mom would also sleep. I remember my parents bragging that they only needed 6 hours of sleep at night.... yeah right, I would catch them napping after breakfast, after lunch, before dinner and after dinner. I could tell when Dad answered the phone that he was half-awake.
The more I read on the forums here, this appears to be the norm in many of the households.