Mom has been in a NH for 2 years. Family decided I should take care of her 11yr old dog. There was no discussion with me. I’m disabled due to Lyme Disease. I also have several chronic illnesses. It’s a daily struggle. I’m just not able to care for one more pet. I have my own pets. I really tried taking care of her dog. I know how much mom loves her. Owning a pet is a huge responsibility. I asked my 3 siblings & my dad if they could bring her home. All said, “No.” I’ve called my dad in tears asking for help. Parents are divorced. I’ve also talked to mom about re-homing her dog. I’ve been so distraught. Nobody but me has been concerned about the dog’s overall well-being. Her mental, physical, social & emotional needs were not being met. I contacted & researched a reputable breed specific rescue. Mom’s dog is now w the rescue & doing great! ALL of her needs are being met! I’m able to monitor her progress on the rescue’s FB page. Soon, she will be up for adoption. I recently found out my dad is applying for her adoption. He had so many chances to take her home & didn’t. Makes zero sense to me.
Should I tell my mom her dog has been re-homed?
I do that when I run into people that I haven’t seen in ages and they ask about my crazy family members. I casually say, “Everyone is fine.” Why open doors to unpleasant discussions? No point to that.
Maybe the shelter won’t give her to your dad.
You also sound smart to not communicate with your toxic family.
Best wishes to you, your mom and Trixie!
I also agree to inform the rescue that ur Dad has been asked to take the dog because of your illnesses and refused. If they are a good rescue, they will check out his home and be able to care for the dog. They may even ask why he didn't take the dog when asked.
Also tell the rescue group not to let your dad have the dog. He will probably bring the dog right back to you!